A LETTER TO MY FUTURE DAUGHTER

Dear {still unsure of your name} Greetings from the years when you are just a thought, and your conception not yet a plan made. The years when me, your mother, is young and going through the final stages of my youth. I write this letter to you at this time, because it is at this time that I know and feel how you feel or will feel about yourself when reading this my letter. If you are reading this, you must be in your early teens, when you think I am such a bugger boo and you do not want to talk to me. I understand, I was there also just ask your grand mother and Aunt Carol they will tell you all about it. I hope by now you are acknowledging that as I write this I am in the same position you are in, in whatever year it is. I must tell you that the genes in our family are very strong and am therefore almost 80% sure that you are a chubby girl. I write to you my love to help you at this time. Being chubby as I like to call it, is not a bad thing at all, and let no one tell you any different. I am at this time chubby and when I tell you what I am about to, just know that I am talking from experience, so be prepared. I hope you know that the fairest of all ladies in the 18th century Lilly Langtry was about 180 pounds, that is about 90kilograms, you are probably around 70kg, so just imagine if at her time she was 20 kg more than you, and she was the most beautiful, then you must be just as good my dear. I will not lie my love, your youth years will be your most difficult, I write to you to prepare you because I love you and would not want any harm to come upon you. You may have started noticing that you are slowly changing, your physique you’re curvier and your skin has started to glow more than some of your friends. Do not worry sweetheart, it is normal for you as it is for me know when I write this. By now there are those that call you fat others plus size others overweight, do not take it personal, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, just the same way you think some people are malnutrition, others skinny and others slim. Just note that each has a different meaning, being fat means you’re gluttonous, being plus size means you’re big in size but healthy and being overweight means that you’re BMI{body mass index} is imbalanced, that is your height does not support your weight{but you can handle that}. If you do your research well my love, you will find out that women never valued skinniness and only started to value it, to literally fit into a society that was male dominated, they wanted to “occupy less space” because of their insecurities to male chauvinism. If , as I write this letter to you my dear, the Constitution of Kenya has increased women rights and representation in running the country , so I can only hope that the country is being run by a lady and that Thika Road is not the only super highway. I mean, there is no need to “occupy less space” so no need to be skinny, accept you the way you are. Let no one mock you and put you down because of your genes my love. At this time I write to you, I have not only swum in the national team but have climbed Mt. Longonot and also hopefully will climb Mt. Kenya before I plan for your birth. Yes my dear, at my 70 something kilogram, so there is nothing you cannot do, so get up off that couch and start working yourself. Yes my dear, you will sweat more than your counterparts and have to put in more effort but it will all be worth it. So what if you sweat more, if today we have products that can help with that I can only imagine what you have. Yes I know you have started noticing “XY chromosome species”. It is also normal at this time of your life. It will also not be an easy task my love, but I tell you, you will come out of it stronger than when you went in. I am not sure what the species of your time is like but of my time, they are not like in your grandmothers time or my grand mothers time, but be aware that what I may go through with the species may not be similar to you, but like I said I want you to be prepared, if the species is lowering your esteem, then just know it is not right. NO ONE is supposed to lower your self respect and esteem my love, especially not of the species, and I believe you have brothers “make use of them” in your favour against……….

Black species like chubby girls than other species, that’s the perception that people in my society have, but it is not a proven fact, so my baby girl, if you fall and its not black do not hold back, there is no greater joy in ones life than proving the majority wrong, you have the power to do so my dear, but tread carefully, another perception Is that the broke of the species also like chubby chubby to feed on their low self esteem, but with high esteem girl, you will never have to deal with this. Queen Latifah at this time is not only chubby chubby but is also the richest chubby chubby lady in the world. She is ranked first in the plus size celebrities others including Model Kate Moss and Model Tacara. She is an actress, musician and model; I used Google to get this, whatever internet search device you have you can look them up. I build my confidence from such knowledge, that though Queen Latifah went through a tough childhood as an obese girl, she came out of it, not slimmer but bigger in her heart and in her mind. My dear I pray you find knowledge not only in my letter but in some other person that will help guide you, for you are not alone in this stage. Please do not give me a grand daughter at the wrong time, I believe that I am still young at heart when your are young physically…..I want things to go right for you, not perfect but right, and giving me a grand child out of wedlock is not something I would want for you my daughter. Sometimes my love, you will hurt and feel low, just know that I went through it and so did Queen Latifah and Aunt Carol. I hope that now you know when I will start insisting on asking what is the matter with you and you want to bang the door on my face, its not that I want to bother you, it is that I Love you and I care, and I want things to go right for you, but maybe I deserve it, I did the same to your grandmother. Its karma I guess. I know you must be multi talented, I am and so is your grandmother, the genes again I say. Don’t be too proud because my love, pride comes before a fall, but let it be the basis of your strength and purpose in life, you have the gift use it do not abuse it. I walk past a lame man on the street every morning on my way to work, yes my dear, am working already, maybe if you took sometime and lose the attitude and come and talk to me I will tell you lots about me that you may not know, just ask my love. Every morning, I find the man in the same position, with a smile on his face begging me and others for a shilling to help him out. I do sometimes give him other times I just say hi to him. Imagine my dear, He is lame and in a lot of hardships but he can still manage a smile, in the morning when he may not even have eaten breakfast let alone diner. If you can walk, talk, dance, run, swim, and earn a living then what would be the reason not to smile? I ask myself this question every day, ask yourself and find an answer………. I started with the hard times dear, so that by the end of reading this letter you will be smiling. So much good will come out of your youth just as it is coming out of mine. You will meet great people, great friends and have good times with them. Your Aunt Sophie, am hoping is still alive and kicking and that she is still my best friend, we had some good times me and her, we cried together laughed together and sometimes fought but at the end we still came out closer. Value your friends my dear, but take note of true friends, untrue friends and quittances. One thing I tell you my dear, is that true friends will always show themselves, you will just know. Those people who just want your resources and you only want theirs bring no value to your life.

I am having fun in my youth my dear, living each day as if it is my last. When I love dear, I love with all my heart, and I am very happy when doing so. It is fun to have fun in your youth but do it responsibly, because too much of everything is dangerous you know. Just a few words from my big heart my daughter, I hope after you read this you will run into my arms. Just know I will embrace you no matter the time of day or night. I have not started planning for you my love, but just know you are already somewhere in me: I am yet to find you, maybe in……….. Only God knows when. With Lots of Love, Your Mother.